Do you feel like your insecurity is pushing your man away? Are you petrified of losing him? Insecurity can be a vicious cycle which I want to help you break free of so you can be the best girlfriend, fiancé or wife.
Insecurity can add a lot of pressure on the relationship and can actually destroy it. If you find yourself trapped in this cycle and are reading this then you have by now realized that you need to change. That is the first step so well done to you. The next step is understanding it and stopping it which is what I’m going to help you with.
Where Does Insecurity Come From?
The majority of women who suffer from insecurity do so because they have been hurt in the past. When we fall, our skin will scar and so we also scar from emotional pain. The only difference is that you can’t see these emotional scars. Emotional scars can come in the form of insecurity to constantly remind you of how you have been hurt in the past.
The Effects Of Insecurity
Insecurity can have a number of different effects on you and your relationship including:
- You feel like you’ll never find anyone
- You feel like your man doesn’t really care about you
- You believe that he is too good for you
- You strive to keep him interested in you
- You feel that you may be better off on your own
- You believe that he will reject you once he gets to know you
- You want to always be in control
- If your man gets upset you believe it is your fault
How To Stop Being Insecure In A Relationship
Now that I have covered where insecurity comes from and how it can affect you and your relationship, it is time to work on stop being insecure. This isn’t going to happen overnight and could even take a number of months but it will all be well worth it. You will feel so much more confident in yourself and can enjoy your relationship a lot more.
1. Know The Difference Between Imagination And Reality
If you’re insecure then it can be so easy to be swept up in your imagination. Your man could be on his phone looking at the football forums but you start making up a story in your own mind about him texting other women which will only feed your anxiety. You need to starve your anxiety by sticking with reality and not coming up with your theories and conclusions.